All good ideas start with wine. (Or in the shower). Our newest business venture is public speaking. And we probably shouldn’t even call it that. It’s more like a comedy show of truth telling if we’re being honest.
We’ll have a link to our recent speaking engagement at the NWA Business Women’s Conference up soon, but in honor of Boss’s Day (Tuesday, Oct. 16) we thought we’d tell you what it’s like to run a small business while also being moms in charge of well, everything else in life.
Being a #girlboss is hard work. As co-owners, we take out the trash, deliver magazines and whatever else needs to happen. But first thing’s first. Being a boss means you need a good title. Our favorite thing is to read people’s titles and bios on LinkedIn and event programs. It sounds so made up sometimes! Watch out because we’re about to start updating our list of skills each week to reflect what our titles should be. Amazing Human Being coming soon.
Really the best piece of advice we give is don’t go into business with your friends. Or take money from family. We should clarify. We were not friends when we started 3W Magazine. It began as a business relationship and now we’re inseparable and basically family. If you have a meeting with one of us, it’s like having a meeting with both.
Do what you want to do … if you want to do it, just start it. Because if the pain of staying where you are is greater than taking a risk of doing something else, you know what to do. But expect to make half of your predicted income the first year. You read that right. Take your financial projections and cut them in half.
This is a good one. If they don’t know you personally, don’t take it personally. There are just some people you’ll never win over. The line of people who don’t like us probably starts back in Oklahoma where we’re from. As women we have a hard time accepting that. We want everyone to like us. We want to look like we have it all together. We want to look perfect. But perfection is a unicorn people.
A lot of people don’t know this … but you get REALLY good at it when you own a business. It IS POSSIBLE to read something on the internets (yes we meant to say that) you don’t agree with and simply move on with your life. You know what we mean … Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Do not comment or post. MOVE ON. Keep scrolling.
You become what you think about (Proverbs 23:7) so keep the pessimists at bay. Don’t let people who work for you bring in their negative energy. Just say no to negative talk within the four walls of your office.
Probably the best advice came from a former client and mentor, Greg Blair, who ran the SCJ office locally for many years … He said, “Hire hard, manage easy.” When you get in a hurry hiring people to fill a needed position, you have to go back and spend all your time managing them. That is so true and has been a really hard lesson to learn.
Appreciate the good people in your life. Friends, clients, and friends who are also clients. Extend some gratitude and grace to everyone.
And lastly, no one else knows what they’re doing either. Believe that. Fake it 'til you make it.