Can we just admit something? Donald Trump is right. It’s all fake news. Every where we look on social media, it’s fake news. It feels so edited and false.
Since we’re being honest I’ll just tell you we don’t really love social media. But we own a magazine so it’s a necessity. However, deep down we know print is powerful and offline is the new luxury.
Kasie and I aren’t good at social media, but we are good at being social. When attending, promoting and planning events is a huge part of your job, you get really good at listening to people (Kasie is adding life-coach to her skill-set on LinkedIn right now.). We’re so focused on talking to our friends and clients when we’re at events, that walking around snapping pictures to post on Instagram is not second nature.
And if I’m being honest, we’re always relieved at social events when we see friends that we know well and see us for who we really are (Fabulous, of course! Insert crying emoji face here.).
I have a truth telling friend, Courtney. She is brilliant and beautiful. But the best thing about her is that she tells it like it is. And I love her for it.
I’m not sure why it’s so hard to be vulnerable and speak your truth to people. Maybe it’s part of being a woman and being raised to “always be nice.” I will admit I still have a disease to please. Maybe it’s part of living in the South too … us ladies are always apologizing for something. Sorry, but could you pass the salt & pepper please? Why are we always apologizing? As women, why is it so hard to say how you feel? Why is it so hard to speak your truth? (We can’t be alone in this feeling.) Anyway, Kasie and I made a pact that we’d work on saying exactly how we feel. To each other, to friends and to clients. We are always appreciative when someone politely says how it really is.
And that’s how our side business was born. We decided if we put our new mantra out there, we’d have to be braver about living it out. So we created T-shirts with our new mantra: Speak Your Truth.
Honestly, I think women appreciate it when we say what we’re thinking. People in general appreciate truth tellers, don’t they? And we all need a few in our lives.
Back to my friend Courtney … When she was newly married and attending her husband’s company Christmas party, a woman sipped her martini and quipped, “So Courtney … how old are you anyway?” Courtney smiled and replied, “How much do you weigh anyway?”
Now why can’t I speak my truth like that? Typically the few times anyone has been rude to Kasie or me, it’s been a woman. But we’ll save that topic #empoweredwomenempowerwomen for another blog post.
One final thought: we’ve found it’s sometimes easier to speak our truth to new friends than old ones. Have you? New friends judge you from where you are now, which for most of us is a better version of ourselves than we were even a year ago, right? We’d love to hear your thoughts on this! In the mean time, keep being brave and speaking your own truth.